Am I Good Enough?

This is one of the most common questions we see people struggling with in our practice. “Am I good enough?” This question plagues people and is often most acute during the adolescent and 20s years. How do we define what is good enough? Why do so many of us fear that we’re not?

Perfectionism can be a way some people “cope” with this fear of not being good enough. Often people think they can “prove” their way into being good enough, but this is never the case. We can’t fix something with outside achievements that is is a problem with our inside feelings about self.

Comparison to others has always been a challenging part of being human, but it’s never been easier and more dangerous to compare ourselves with the rise of social media. It’s easy to confirm our fear that we’re not good enough when we have a thousand examples of people’s “perfect”, curated lives to see on social media.

In therapy we explore the the roots of the fear of not being good enough and work to find self compassion and peace with self. It’s possible to break free of perfectionism and find effective coping strategies for the anxiety and depression that often accompany it. If you would like to learn more please reach out.