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How to Choose a Therapist

So you'd like to start therapy, but how do you find the right therapist?

At its core therapy is relational. Yes, it’s also based on science and research and neurology and biology, but you need to have a good relationship with your therapist for all of it to work.

One of the most common ways to find a therapist is to search online. Psychology Today is a great resource to view therapists’ profiles in your area.

Personal referrals are also wonderful. It can feel vulnerable but asking a friend or family member if there is someone they have had a good experience with could help send you in the right direction.

If you're searching for a therapist for your child, their school may have a list of recommended providers in the community.

So once you have a few therapists’ names, how do you know if a therapist is a good fit for you? Here are a few things to consider:

  • Do you feel heard and understood?'

  • Do you feel confident in their experience and ability to work with what you’re struggling with?

  • Do you feel you can open up to them?

  • Is the therapist open to answering your questions about treatment? (a good therapist shouldn’t get defensive about this).

It’s ok to meet with a few different therapists in the beginning to see who is the right fit for you. A good therapist will understand and support that. 

Once you’ve found the right fit though, it’s best to pick one person and move forward. It’s uncommon to see more than one therapist at a time (except in rare circumstances when treating two distinct issues). 

A good relationship with your therapist is key. It allows for the safety necessary to be vulnerable and for the challenging work of therapy to occur.

If you have any questions or would like to talk to one of our providers, you're welcome to call and speak directly with one of us. It can be reassuring to speak over the phone before coming in for the initial appointment. Or, contact us through our website and we’ll help you find the right therapist for you and your needs.